Sunday, July 19, 2009

DHT Chapter 4 questions

This chapter starts with the story of Ray, a teen party guy who hasn’t grown up, and isn’t sure he wants to. He’s choosing fun now over the future he says he wants. He’s heading toward what the authors call “a failure to launch.” Why? Because the teen years are like a diving board that, if we land on the right spot, will launch us into our best possible future. If we miss (or don’t even jump), we risk never launching. Most of us know a Ray—a “kidult”—who still hasn’t launched at twenty-five, thirty, or even older. The authors then identify five categories of hard things that promise to deliver high-impact results now and later if we do them.

1) Do you know a “kidult” like Ray? Describe his or her life. Do you think there’s anything that anyone could say to this “Ray” that would motivate him or her to change direction? If so, what? If not, why not?

2) The authors write, “What each of us will become later in life largely depends on what we become now.” Do you agree or disagree? What might a mature adult who knows you well say you are becoming?

3) The “strict training” Alex and Brett talk about doesn’t sound appealing at first. But what might be some payoffs from that kind of discipline in your life now, and your dreams for your future?

4) Which of the five hard things that the authors list motivates you the most? Why?

5) What are some of the hard things you’ve already done in your life? What were the results? What would you say you learned through these experiences?