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Thursday, July 30, 2009

Something new to talk about.

Sooo, not too long ago, an online friend of mine was talking to me about comfort zones. We both are members on the Rebelution forums and she wanted to post a thread on this. I helped her a little bit with the questions, though she gets most of the credit. I thought it would be cool to talk about it on my blog. I'd like to hear what others have to say on this. =) Sam, hope you don't mind that I do this!!

Lately I've been thinking about how we, as Rebelutionaries, can miss opportunities that we may not even be looking for. If you're not constantly attempting to stretch yourself, how are you going to grow- spiritually, or personally? Andrew John Harrison makes a good point: "It is only when your leave you comfort zone that you run into your limits."

We have to push ourselves to try new things and step away from the familiar. In doing that we will continue to grow, and learn to do even greater things for God in the future. Because how can you ever realize your limits, if you don't even try to reach them? Meriamwebster.com defines a comfort zone as "The level at which one functions with ease and familiarity."

So, my questions to you are:

-Have you ever turned down an opportunity, and then regretted it, simply because it was out of your comfort zone?

-Have you done anything recently that was out of your comfort zone? Were you able to tell the difference of whether it was a positive, God honoring challenge vs. something you did just for the sake of it?

-Have you ever found yourself feeling uncomfortable, because you were in a situation that you should never have be comfortable with in the first place (i.e. something inappropriate or not honoring God)?
How have you judged between positive vs. negative opportunities to step out of your comfort zone?

-What did you learn from it, and how can you apply that in the future?

-Do you have any suggestions for other Rebelutionaries, should they encounter a similar situation as you?

- Can you think of any Bible verses that talk about comfort zones?

8 comments:

Matt said...

I can definitely relate to this. I used to stay within my comfort zone all the time, and never even really thought about doing something beyond my limits. Recently though, idk why really, but I've been more inspired, I guess, to do something out of my comfort zone. And what's cool is, once you start doing something out of your comfort zone, your comfort zone grows and includes what previously was out. So you can just keep going!

Emily said...

Good point Matt. I agree. what you said reminds me of something Alex Harris said once: 'If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got'. And that is so true...

-Have you ever turned down an opportunity, and then regretted it, simply because it was out of your comfort zone?

Definitely. I've gotten a lot better about that though.

-Have you done anything recently that was out of your comfort zone? Were you able to tell the difference of whether it was a positive, God honoring challenge vs. something you did just for the sake of it?

Yes, for sure. Also, I used to really struggle with 'doing something hard just for the sake of it'. It's almost like I was just seeing something that would be something others wouldn't do normally and I just did it. At first I thought I accomplished something good. Now, looking back, I see that while it wasn't really sinful, I probably should have held back. And, in some cases, I have had to learn to hold back more.

-Have you ever found yourself feeling uncomfortable, because you were in a situation that you should never have be comfortable with in the first place (i.e. something inappropriate or not honoring God)?

Not really.

-What did you learn from it, and how can you apply that in the future?

I kind of talked about that above....

-Do you have any suggestions for other Rebelutionaries, should they encounter a similar situation as you?

Yeah. I would mainly remember that honoring God and doing something hard does not mean doing anything that comes up that would put you out of your comfort zone. A pet peeve of mine is when someone does something stupid just because someone dared him. Seriously, doing hard stuff like that does not honor God...but at times, it can make Satan very happy...as you are fearing man rather than God...

- Can you think of any Bible verses that talk about comfort zones?

Not at the moment.... But I will try to find some...

Mel said...

Good one! I've been growing in getting out of my comfort zone over the past year...basically with whom I would talk to at church or gatherings. I wasn't always comfortable with talking to just anybody...but I think I've grown. And I will definitely continue to grow as I enter M28!!

I have been in awkward situations, but that was because I thought people might judge my intentions. Fear of man in a nutshell.

Can't think of any verses at the moment...but I'm sure there a few. :)

Anonymous said...

Mel, I've always admired you for talking with anyone and everyone with ease! Courage is doing something even though you're afraid to do it. =)

1)I think I have turned down opportunities because they were outside of my zone, but I can't remember what they were.

2)Yes, I have done something recently that was outside of my comfort zone. It was something I needed to do, but was a little scary, as nobody told me to do it. I prayed about it and then acted on it. I'm glad I did it.

3)Yes. Recently, I've had no outside challenges - no school, little work. (I'm about to go crazy) At the end of the day, or even in the middle of it, I'll think - what have I gotten accomplished? The answer is usually something like : "I got to a higher level in Tetris, watched America's Got Talent, sat on the couch and watched the news..." While there's nothing wrong with these things, if that's my big accomplishment for the day, that's just plain pathetic!!
3b) - I realized that I need to make challenges for myself - things like serving my family more often, learning things, cleaning up, or studying scripture more.

4)If you're not sure about something, remember that God is watching. If you decide it's wrong, stop it - even if it means telling your friends you can't continue.

5) Hmmm. Not exactly about comfort zones, but one that implies that they exist: "Don't let anyone look down on you, because you are young, but set an example for the believers, in speech, in life, in love, in faith, and in purity." 1 Timothy 4:12

I sometimes struggle with wanting to do big hard things and not little hard things. Strangely enough, the little hard things are harder than the big hard things. Any suggestions?

~mee

Sam said...

Aww, yay. I'm happy you liked this enough to post it. Thanks Emily!

Cara said...

Yes, mee-little hard things are often so much harder than big hard things, probably because after you do them once, you have to do them again, and again, and again, and again, and again, and again... and you rarely/never get any thanks for it (not to say that that should be the motivation, but it does help you keep going when you don't want to!)

Yes, I'm sure I've turned things down, though I can't think of any. I generally have more trouble figuring out which hard thing to choose. Although the not-so-good hard things I do are rarely sinful, they aren't edifying necessarily, either.
Yes, I've done a hard thing lately-sort of. I volunteered to run the projector for the 2nd worship session on youth day. I didn't end up doing it, but even the volunteering was a stretch!:-)
Verses...um...there's the story of Peter walking on water. I guess doing hard things is really a matter of trust, in which case, there would be plenty of verses. What do you think?

Sam said...

Mee-
I agree completely. I just got back from a mission trip, and sometimes it can feel like the little things are boring and routine. Working with kids, playing in the youth worship band, studying, cleaning your room, etc... aren't as exciting anymore. Sometimes the "small hard things" seem to have no effect. The things you appear to fall on deaf ears, or you think that no one really cares.

Recently, someone told me they used to the same issue. In my case, it's lacking passion when I talk to people. Will they even care? However, she made a good point. "You never really know who's watching you. If you don't say or do something, it may never have that effect on someone. It's hard to not be able to see that small hard things have an immediate purpose or reward, but remember that you never know who might see you and be changed by it."
Hope this helps. :)

Anonymous said...

Thanks, Sam. That does help. =)
~mee